Birth Story

JBC's Story - My elective c-section

I had an elective c-section in July 2006. I am glad that I made the choice to have a c-section, the birth went smoothly and I was relaxed knowing that I would know when, where and how the birth would occur. It was painful for the first 5 days but didn't sound as bad as some of my friends vaginal births. My doctor supported me in making my own choice for my birth as did my husband. Everyone else I talked to about it certainly did have strong opinions and should learn to keep their opinions to themselves. People go out of their way to frighten women about c-sections, I don't understand it. If you do your research and make a decision based on facts and not everyone's misrepresentations and wive's tales, then a c-section may be the best choice for you.

Comment from emma - 30 Mar 2006

Hi there. glad to hear your c section whent well and you recovered so well. I am having major issues with my pregnancy at the moment! I suffer from Primary tokophobia and have done so since aged 15 the thought of child birth scares me that much i have already tried to make myself miscarry by stabbing myself in the stomach with a hair brush and taking loads of drungs and alcohol (I would like to state that i will regret that for the rest of my life and feel so guilty and luckily all is ok with the baby and i would never do it again, I was in a blind panic)

I was told three years ago that i couldnt have children and then 7 weeks ago after putting on only a few pounds i found out i was pregnant. My baby is due onmay the 28th and i have been to see four midwives who all said that i am being silly and over reacting with that i bet you are too posh to push look on their face. I have seen one psychiatrist and all have said that they think that giving me an epidural and birth partner will be better for me than a c section.

I dont know what i am going to do if i have to give birth naturally. I know this is wrong and i feel so bad but i hate this baby and when she is born i am giving her to my mum because i dont know how i am ever going to love myself after this never mind a baby. I was wondering if you had any tips on how i can make my drs listen to me. I looked in to going private but in Nottingham where i live The private care is just the same the only differences is that you get a private room.